We’ve all heard or used the term, “with all due
respect”, but any language expert will tell you that what comes next tells
people what you really think of them.
respect”, but any language expert will tell you that what comes next tells
people what you really think of them.
Just like saying, “I really like the colour of that
dress, but….”
dress, but….”
We all know that it’s just the sweetener before the sour
that’s about to leave a foul taste in your mouth and you wanting to punch
someone in the head, and what comes after ‘but’ negates all before it any ways.
that’s about to leave a foul taste in your mouth and you wanting to punch
someone in the head, and what comes after ‘but’ negates all before it any ways.
I had a new version of “with all due respect” a
few months back when I commented under my style name on a blogger’s blog and I
said in my comment “I was putting my 24 year experience jewellery designer
hat on”.
few months back when I commented under my style name on a blogger’s blog and I
said in my comment “I was putting my 24 year experience jewellery designer
hat on”.
Two people, the owner and another blogger who I had actually
stopped following because of her stupidity, both commented and both disgusted me
with their attitude towards jewellery, but that’s a different rant.
stopped following because of her stupidity, both commented and both disgusted me
with their attitude towards jewellery, but that’s a different rant.
The blogger I stopped following started her comment with,
“I appreciate your years of experience”, and then went on with her
opinion anyway.
“I appreciate your years of experience”, and then went on with her
opinion anyway.
I stopped, I looked, I re-read her comment and thought,
“well, blow me down, that’s a new one”.
“well, blow me down, that’s a new one”.
I’ve thought a lot about how people start sentences and
comments and for some reason they need to set up a prelude to it. I’m not even
sure that’s the right term to use. It’s a sentence, such as, “with all due
respect”, that they feel they need to add at the beginning as some way of
lightening the mood, or letting them off the hook.
comments and for some reason they need to set up a prelude to it. I’m not even
sure that’s the right term to use. It’s a sentence, such as, “with all due
respect”, that they feel they need to add at the beginning as some way of
lightening the mood, or letting them off the hook.
Like it’s actually going to make their comment more
acceptable regardless of how bad it is.
acceptable regardless of how bad it is.
I found it bizarre, because in actual fact, she didn’t
appreciate my experience at all. And as I said, their comments about how they
don’t care about caring for their jewellery disgusted me. And the owner of the
blog claimed she didn’t have dust to worry about so having her jewellery on
display was no problem.
appreciate my experience at all. And as I said, their comments about how they
don’t care about caring for their jewellery disgusted me. And the owner of the
blog claimed she didn’t have dust to worry about so having her jewellery on
display was no problem.
Well, if she doesn’t have a problem with dust I’d love to
know her secret. But either way, appreciating my experience was rather
insulting because I knew she actually didn’t, so why lie to me and try to
butter me up?
know her secret. But either way, appreciating my experience was rather
insulting because I knew she actually didn’t, so why lie to me and try to
butter me up?
I would rather someone simply state their opinion and not leave stupid preludes and comments such as, “well to tell
you the truth”, which I absolutely HATE because it’s like, why do yo need
to say that, do you lie to me every other time you talk?
you the truth”, which I absolutely HATE because it’s like, why do yo need
to say that, do you lie to me every other time you talk?
Ugh, just state your opinion people and stop being stupid
and disrespectful.
and disrespectful.
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